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Tuesday, April 7, 2020
Compare & Contrast: Why you shoulnd't compare your life to others'
In one of my recent posts, I spoke about perspective. And in creating our perspectives, often times we compare our situation with someone else's.
When we compare our current situation to that of someone else, we do a disservice to ourselves in the experience that we are experiencing and comparing. We aren't living in the experience itself. Imagine yourself on a raft floating along a calm river, trying to go against what the water is trying to force to you do. Now imagine yourself just going with where the water takes you, and at the end, everything is okay. Comparison, among other things, does not allow you to take in the experience for what it is. Comparing will tell you that you "should" feel a certain way about something or "shouldn't" feel a certain way about something. This comparison does not erase the experience that you are having however!
Many times we use comparisons to make ourselves feel better, telling ourselves that "someone else out there has it worse." This is true, however, if we ignore that which is going on inside of us and tell ourselves that we should not be feeling the way that we do, how much attention is being placed on that experience? Is it going against the experience or flowing through the experience? Each experience we have is giving something to us, even in the negative experiences we can gain positives out of it. If we don't allow ourselves to be in the experience and flow with it, we suppress the negative and disallow ourselves from experiencing the positive that comes from it.
When we ignore these things, we aren't giving the emotions the attention that it needs so that the feeling can flow through us. It gets suppressed and it gets shoved further down until we either snap or start experiencing other side effects of suppressing our emotions.
There is a balance here. This is not to say that we should, while we are navigating this 3D world, use our emotions to control us, but allow ourselves to experience the emotion and understand why we are experiencing the emotion so that the emotion doesn't get "stuck." This is also not to say that anything outside of you is responsible for these feelings. Only you are responsible for the way that you feel.
How can we fully love ourselves if we use comparisons in dismissing our emotions? How is it loving to dismiss that which is a part of us for any given moment in time? Love your emotions within your own experience. Comparing your inner state to the outer state or someone else's outer or inner state disconnects you from your own self. When we are disconnected from self we aren't loving self. And if we don't have self love, how could we ever truly love another?
When we compare our current situation to that of someone else, we do a disservice to ourselves in the experience that we are experiencing and comparing. We aren't living in the experience itself. Imagine yourself on a raft floating along a calm river, trying to go against what the water is trying to force to you do. Now imagine yourself just going with where the water takes you, and at the end, everything is okay. Comparison, among other things, does not allow you to take in the experience for what it is. Comparing will tell you that you "should" feel a certain way about something or "shouldn't" feel a certain way about something. This comparison does not erase the experience that you are having however!
Many times we use comparisons to make ourselves feel better, telling ourselves that "someone else out there has it worse." This is true, however, if we ignore that which is going on inside of us and tell ourselves that we should not be feeling the way that we do, how much attention is being placed on that experience? Is it going against the experience or flowing through the experience? Each experience we have is giving something to us, even in the negative experiences we can gain positives out of it. If we don't allow ourselves to be in the experience and flow with it, we suppress the negative and disallow ourselves from experiencing the positive that comes from it.
When we ignore these things, we aren't giving the emotions the attention that it needs so that the feeling can flow through us. It gets suppressed and it gets shoved further down until we either snap or start experiencing other side effects of suppressing our emotions.
There is a balance here. This is not to say that we should, while we are navigating this 3D world, use our emotions to control us, but allow ourselves to experience the emotion and understand why we are experiencing the emotion so that the emotion doesn't get "stuck." This is also not to say that anything outside of you is responsible for these feelings. Only you are responsible for the way that you feel.
How can we fully love ourselves if we use comparisons in dismissing our emotions? How is it loving to dismiss that which is a part of us for any given moment in time? Love your emotions within your own experience. Comparing your inner state to the outer state or someone else's outer or inner state disconnects you from your own self. When we are disconnected from self we aren't loving self. And if we don't have self love, how could we ever truly love another?
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My Perspective on Perspectives
Life is an illusion, but it's also not. The nature of duality makes it so. You see the world through your current perspective. You are the universe experiencing itself. As other people see it through theirs. This is why sometimes when we think of our past, we "want to go back" even if, in those moments, they were difficult for us. I know that sometimes I think about going back to a certain period of time, in my current perspective I tend to see a lot of the good parts, and life seemed like it was better back then versus now. However, when I think back on that time period and my perspective at the time, it was anything but good!
We need to keep perspective in mind when we communicate with other people. Most arguments and miscommunications deal with different perspectives. The language that we use to describe something that is a bit more difficult to describe. Sure, we know that "cows go moo" but there are other, more difficult things in life that we try to explain to others, mostly experiences and emotions. For example, if someone says they are hearing angels talking to them...is this audio in the same as hearing a song? What do they mean by this? Do they mean that they received signs from what they describe as angels and this is the type of communication they are referring to? Is this talk coming from what others would describe as "higher self"?
Our perspective is a perspective of each moment. I am perceiving a moment in the past in a certain way that I am perceiving it in this moment, not in the moment that I was experiencing it. What was my perception of that moment when I was in that moment? But, if that perception is an illusion, what is reality and what is a false reality? We set our standard for reality based on ego and our senses. But the truth about reality is that there is no reality other than the reality that is experienced. This in itself is not reality. The phrase, "life is but a dream" couldn't be more accurate.
Perspectives can stem from comparison. As in, if one is going through what they perceive as a more difficult experience in the present moment than they did in the past, they might perceive that past moment as being "better" - however, the person was miserable in that moment too. We can only describe things through our own perspective at the time we are experiencing the perspective, and, if the perspective is in the present moment, the perspective is present also. The perspective only exists within us and we are the perspective.
We don't need someone else's perspective of themselves or anything outside of them for our own perspective. This is when comparisons come into play. We say that "someone else has it worse" but we don't need our perspective on something that someone else is going through in order to change our own perspective of our own experiences. For example, our perspective in the western world is that of a "good sophisticated life" in comparison to say, some communities of primitive tribes in other areas of the world that still live off the land. I would place a bet that most people would define their own life as "better" than one like that, but they don't see it that way, and it may not even be because they have never experienced life as we do. We covet materialistic things, other cultures do not. It's just a different perspective. Just because your reality says, "they are worse off than us" doesn't mean that they truly are worse off. Who defines being "worse"? We can only define it within ourselves. Not for other people. Who's 'reality' is real? Isn't each person's reality just as real to them as your reality is to you? We each create our own realities, nobody is "right" nobody is "wrong" - everything just simply "is" until our minds/perspective/ego comes into play.
I want to not that I am not talking in the extreme sense, yes these things are true, however, this does not mean that we can make an orange pop out of nowhere in our hands out of nothing. We are humans and we still have ego, but we can gain the understanding of the bigger picture here. The truth about reality is that there is no reality. We create our realities within ourselves and our perspective of the outside world and our own inner worlds.
We need to keep perspective in mind when we communicate with other people. Most arguments and miscommunications deal with different perspectives. The language that we use to describe something that is a bit more difficult to describe. Sure, we know that "cows go moo" but there are other, more difficult things in life that we try to explain to others, mostly experiences and emotions. For example, if someone says they are hearing angels talking to them...is this audio in the same as hearing a song? What do they mean by this? Do they mean that they received signs from what they describe as angels and this is the type of communication they are referring to? Is this talk coming from what others would describe as "higher self"?
Our perspective is a perspective of each moment. I am perceiving a moment in the past in a certain way that I am perceiving it in this moment, not in the moment that I was experiencing it. What was my perception of that moment when I was in that moment? But, if that perception is an illusion, what is reality and what is a false reality? We set our standard for reality based on ego and our senses. But the truth about reality is that there is no reality other than the reality that is experienced. This in itself is not reality. The phrase, "life is but a dream" couldn't be more accurate.
Perspectives can stem from comparison. As in, if one is going through what they perceive as a more difficult experience in the present moment than they did in the past, they might perceive that past moment as being "better" - however, the person was miserable in that moment too. We can only describe things through our own perspective at the time we are experiencing the perspective, and, if the perspective is in the present moment, the perspective is present also. The perspective only exists within us and we are the perspective.
We don't need someone else's perspective of themselves or anything outside of them for our own perspective. This is when comparisons come into play. We say that "someone else has it worse" but we don't need our perspective on something that someone else is going through in order to change our own perspective of our own experiences. For example, our perspective in the western world is that of a "good sophisticated life" in comparison to say, some communities of primitive tribes in other areas of the world that still live off the land. I would place a bet that most people would define their own life as "better" than one like that, but they don't see it that way, and it may not even be because they have never experienced life as we do. We covet materialistic things, other cultures do not. It's just a different perspective. Just because your reality says, "they are worse off than us" doesn't mean that they truly are worse off. Who defines being "worse"? We can only define it within ourselves. Not for other people. Who's 'reality' is real? Isn't each person's reality just as real to them as your reality is to you? We each create our own realities, nobody is "right" nobody is "wrong" - everything just simply "is" until our minds/perspective/ego comes into play.
I want to not that I am not talking in the extreme sense, yes these things are true, however, this does not mean that we can make an orange pop out of nowhere in our hands out of nothing. We are humans and we still have ego, but we can gain the understanding of the bigger picture here. The truth about reality is that there is no reality. We create our realities within ourselves and our perspective of the outside world and our own inner worlds.
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Monday, April 6, 2020
Light & Dark
Light cannot exist without dark. Dark cannot exist without light. The universe created darkness so that we could see the light. When you experience something bad, something dark, the universe is trying to show you light! Next time something happens that seems like it’s bad, see what kind of light comes from it!
The universe is duality, everything is nothing and nothing is everything, infinitely. ♥︎
The universe is duality, everything is nothing and nothing is everything, infinitely. ♥︎
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I Can't...I Don't Know - Why these phrases are stopping you from being your best self
This has been a common theme lately I have noticed.
What does the phrase "I can't" give to you if you want to do something but tell yourself, "I can't" or even "I don't know how?"
Obviously we have certain 3D physical limitations on what we can do and what we cannot do, however, many times when we say this to ourselves, it has nothing to do with 3D limitations. See my recent post on procrastination to get more in depth with how these thought processes are related to procrastination. In addition to procrastination these thoughts lead to inaction. We cannot reach our goals if we do not take steps towards reaching that goal. We do not have to go "all-in" all at once, we can take baby steps towards reaching our goal.
Rather than thinking, "I can't," make a list of things that you CAN do. And when you do this, do not give yourself a reason to say, "I can...BUT" - once you insert the "but" into the equation, the "I can" phrase turns into an "I can't" phrase. Meditate on things that you can do. Clear your mind and do not allow yourself to stop yourself from listing things that you can do. Ask yourself questions. If something like money is giving you your "I can't" phrase, ask yourself what you CAN do without this limitation!
Now to the infamous "I don't know" - usually when we say "I don't know" we actually DO know. I wrote about this topic further in a different post. If you "don't know" again, ask yourself questions, meditate on why you believe that you don't know. Many times, "I don't know" is a procrastination tool. Ask yourself if there is something that you know, but you are placing a "BUT" in the middle of it somewhere or otherwise giving yourself an excuse to dismiss that in which you know.
When we tell ourselves "I can't" or "I don't know" - we put ourselves in a position of non-movement. If there is something that we want to do and we tell ourselves these things, we won't take any action towards achieving that thing. If you wanted to start your own business, for example, how helpful would those phrases be in achieving this goal? Starting a business sometimes can take funds, and sometimes not having those funds is part of why "I can't" - however, we do not need money to brainstorm about this business, how we want certain things to look and operate. Depending on the business, it doesn't take any money to start a website. There are free options to choose from and, although they might not be with your own domain name etc., it is a place to start. There is nothing wrong in starting small. Like they say, "Rome wasn't built in a day." Facebook pages are also an option too, and they are free to create!
I was someone, and still am to a degree, one that allowed these thoughts to overtake my mind in achieving my goals. However, once I started thinking about what I could do instead of couldn't do and let go of any expectations on how I was going to get there, knowing that having a small start and small growth is not a bad thing, and letting go of judgment on how "good" I was doing at any given moment, I have been able to see some of the growth that I was seeking in the beginning. I am still in that process too!
You can and you do know! What you do not know, CAN hurt you....
What does the phrase "I can't" give to you if you want to do something but tell yourself, "I can't" or even "I don't know how?"
Obviously we have certain 3D physical limitations on what we can do and what we cannot do, however, many times when we say this to ourselves, it has nothing to do with 3D limitations. See my recent post on procrastination to get more in depth with how these thought processes are related to procrastination. In addition to procrastination these thoughts lead to inaction. We cannot reach our goals if we do not take steps towards reaching that goal. We do not have to go "all-in" all at once, we can take baby steps towards reaching our goal.
Rather than thinking, "I can't," make a list of things that you CAN do. And when you do this, do not give yourself a reason to say, "I can...BUT" - once you insert the "but" into the equation, the "I can" phrase turns into an "I can't" phrase. Meditate on things that you can do. Clear your mind and do not allow yourself to stop yourself from listing things that you can do. Ask yourself questions. If something like money is giving you your "I can't" phrase, ask yourself what you CAN do without this limitation!
Now to the infamous "I don't know" - usually when we say "I don't know" we actually DO know. I wrote about this topic further in a different post. If you "don't know" again, ask yourself questions, meditate on why you believe that you don't know. Many times, "I don't know" is a procrastination tool. Ask yourself if there is something that you know, but you are placing a "BUT" in the middle of it somewhere or otherwise giving yourself an excuse to dismiss that in which you know.
When we tell ourselves "I can't" or "I don't know" - we put ourselves in a position of non-movement. If there is something that we want to do and we tell ourselves these things, we won't take any action towards achieving that thing. If you wanted to start your own business, for example, how helpful would those phrases be in achieving this goal? Starting a business sometimes can take funds, and sometimes not having those funds is part of why "I can't" - however, we do not need money to brainstorm about this business, how we want certain things to look and operate. Depending on the business, it doesn't take any money to start a website. There are free options to choose from and, although they might not be with your own domain name etc., it is a place to start. There is nothing wrong in starting small. Like they say, "Rome wasn't built in a day." Facebook pages are also an option too, and they are free to create!
I was someone, and still am to a degree, one that allowed these thoughts to overtake my mind in achieving my goals. However, once I started thinking about what I could do instead of couldn't do and let go of any expectations on how I was going to get there, knowing that having a small start and small growth is not a bad thing, and letting go of judgment on how "good" I was doing at any given moment, I have been able to see some of the growth that I was seeking in the beginning. I am still in that process too!
You can and you do know! What you do not know, CAN hurt you....
Check out my blog's Facebook page and Pursue You Coaching Facebook page for more information and join my Facebook Group or contact me at pursueyoucoach@gmail.com for a FREE 30 minute session. You can also check out my website: https://pursueyou.org
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